Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Words for Thought :)

So last night we were coming up with words to describe one another. Well me, I think I am an odd person for the most part. Some of the words that came up were quirky, which then led to other words like freakish, kinky (ha, uh no!), peculiar and idiosyncratic. I don't know about any of those words really.

We stuck with idiosyncratic and the definition is: peculiar temper or disposition; belonging to one's peculiar and individual character.

And well I've always thought I was peculiar but in a good way :) I like being different than people and just not caring, I want to always be myself in front of others but we all know that can be hard. However, in the comfort of my own home and around others like myself it tends to be pretty easy. I was also told it is going to take a special guy for me to be able to handle my personality, which tends to be a little odd at times and I am a fairly independent person.

Its weird when you think about words to describe yourself and then hear what others think. Now through the grapevine I've heard that people call me "unapproachable". What??!! That is crazy to me! I've always thought that I am very easy to talk to and I love getting to know new people. I try my best to get along with everyone, but lets face it, this world is not perfect and neither are people.

1. not capable of being approached; remote; unreachable: an unapproachable spot; an unapproachable person.
2. impossible to equal or rival: unapproachable mastery of her art.

So I would then say that people thinking I am "unapproachable" leads to me being "misunderstood".

1. improperly understood or interpreted
2. To take in a wrong sense
3. To fail to understand or interpret rightly the words or behavior of

So I've come to terms that I am "misunderstood" in some ways. I have a lot of history in my life that a lot of people don't know about. I don't open up to too many people because of trust issues. But I still want to get to know everybody, I think that there is some part of me that can get along with everyone at some point. We may not ever be real friends and hang out, but I try my hardest not to judge or pretend to know about someone.

I see that we are all guilty at some point of pre-judging before we know anything about anyone. But lets look at what it can do to people when they hear that people think things about them that may not be true. If you don't know then don't judge or talk bad about them. Did you ever think that if someone to you is "unapproachable" then maybe its you not wanting to branch out and get to know them?? Everyone is a good person, but some people just show it differently.

And lastly, we will always have friends who have other friends or significant others that we are not close with. But if we truly care for our friend, we will not judge, but support, there is a good word support

1. to bear or hold up (a load, mass, structure, part, etc.); serve as a foundation for.
2. to sustain or withstand (weight, pressure, strain, etc.) without giving way; serve as a prop for.
3. to undergo or endure, esp. with patience or submission; tolerate.
4. to sustain (a person, the mind, spirits, courage, etc.) under trial or affliction: They supported him throughout his ordeal.
5. to maintain (a person, family, establishment, institution, etc.) by supplying with things necessary to existence; provide for: to support a family

To me if I am a true friend, I always support, defend and care for my friends. Everyone can make their own decisions in life and we cannot control our friends, but if they're happy then we are. If they are down we need to be there to bring them up. Now I am not perfect and sometimes fail at these things. But I see others that get upset or bothered when others become friends or more, but to me that is a sign of low self-esteem which we all have some of. We cannot bring others down for no reason.

Does it really make you feel better when you tell someone you disapprove of their friend or friends? There is really no need to even be discussing others relationships, why? Oh, maybe because it is none of your business!! If you have nothing to do with it, then stay out of it. Since there is no one perfect on the earth then we should not judge or worry about other people's relationships. Doing this with what you say is a "real friend" can really push people away.

That is all for today I think!

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